Bigbird Posted February 6, 2021 Share Posted February 6, 2021 How would u handle this........? As posted some time ago, about a middle age neighbor has Stage 4 cancer & going through family issues (divorce) as well! He was pouring out his sorrows....... I just was lost for words. How/what would u handle this situation? 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Londonchocolateroll Posted February 6, 2021 Share Posted February 6, 2021 Provide a listening ear without judgement. Explore his options with him 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
XianGe Posted February 6, 2021 Share Posted February 6, 2021 1 hour ago, Bigbird said: How would u handle this........? As posted some time ago, about a middle age neighbor has Stage 4 cancer & going through family issues (divorce) as well! He was pouring out his sorrows....... I just was lost for words. How/what would u handle this situation? It's worse than hard... If hard pressed sure will end life 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Homelander Posted February 7, 2021 Share Posted February 7, 2021 Just listen and empathize lor 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
socrates469bc Posted February 7, 2021 Share Posted February 7, 2021 16 hours ago, Bigbird said: How would u handle this........? As posted some time ago, about a middle age neighbor has Stage 4 cancer & going through family issues (divorce) as well! He was pouring out his sorrows....... I just was lost for words. How/what would u handle this situation? 5 hours ago, Homelander said: Just listen and empathize lor i just let him talk without interrupting since he dont have much time left liao. maybe bring him go jiak atbcps to make his remaining time enjoyable. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bigbird Posted February 7, 2021 Author Share Posted February 7, 2021 6 hours ago, socrates469bc said: i just let him talk without interrupting since he dont have much time left liao. maybe bring him go jiak atbcps to make his remaining time enjoyable. 12 hours ago, Homelander said: Just listen and empathize lor 21 hours ago, XianGe said: It's worse than hard... If hard pressed sure will end life 22 hours ago, Londonchocolateroll said: Provide a listening ear without judgement. Explore his options with him He's quite resigned to dying! This is 2nd time after relapsed! He's quite rational, just going for treatment but the cost of treatment & divorce is weighing him down! Question: would any of u accept the role & responsibilities of being appointed LPA? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Homelander Posted February 7, 2021 Share Posted February 7, 2021 1 hour ago, Bigbird said: He's quite resigned to dying! This is 2nd time after relapsed! He's quite rational, just going for treatment but the cost of treatment & divorce is weighing him down! Question: would any of u accept the role & responsibilities of being appointed LPA? No. Great power comes great responsibility Great LPA comes great lp 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chestnut Posted February 7, 2021 Share Posted February 7, 2021 2 hours ago, Bigbird said: He's quite resigned to dying! This is 2nd time after relapsed! He's quite rational, just going for treatment but the cost of treatment & divorce is weighing him down! Question: would any of u accept the role & responsibilities of being appointed LPA? What is LPA? Shalala lala la la ~ 🌠 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
socrates469bc Posted February 8, 2021 Share Posted February 8, 2021 9 hours ago, Bigbird said: He's quite resigned to dying! This is 2nd time after relapsed! He's quite rational, just going for treatment but the cost of treatment & divorce is weighing him down! Question: would any of u accept the role & responsibilities of being appointed LPA? glad that he has accepted the inevitable, it will make the process much easier. if he has anything which he wants to do, do encourage him. i dont mind taking lpa jointly with a reputable lawyer to help a good friend in his final stretch. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meng.huat Posted February 8, 2021 Share Posted February 8, 2021 (edited) why the partner still insist on divorcing at this time? stage 4 means not much time left. his life may be over before the lawyers finish their paperwork. waste money on lawyers... and mentally draining for both parties. Edited February 8, 2021 by meng.huat Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bigbird Posted February 8, 2021 Author Share Posted February 8, 2021 (edited) 10 hours ago, meng.huat said: why the partner still insist on divorcing at this time? stage 4 means not much time left. his life may be over before the lawyers finish their paperwork. waste money on lawyers... and mentally draining for both parties. He feels his partner is just milking him for money! So divorce, give her her share instead of she having the whole lot! I think he's married less then 10yrs! 13 hours ago, socrates469bc said: glad that he has accepted the inevitable, it will make the process much easier. if he has anything which he wants to do, do encourage him. i dont mind taking lpa jointly with a reputable lawyer to help a good friend in his final stretch. I told him to write (lawyer) in to CPF and ask for advance Cpf withdrawal! They no kids. So can sell the apartment and rent small room. Just Spend all his money on himself! Enjoy what he loves to do! Now going chemo. I feel may only have ~5mths. This just makes me sad! 20 hours ago, Chestnut said: What is LPA? Lasting Power of Attorney https://www.msf.gov.sg/policies/Pages/Lasting-Power-of-Attorney.aspx Edited February 8, 2021 by Bigbird 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
socrates469bc Posted February 8, 2021 Share Posted February 8, 2021 33 minutes ago, Bigbird said: I told him to write (lawyer) in to CPF and ask for advance Cpf withdrawal! They no kids. So can sell the apartment and rent small room. Just Spend all his money on himself! Enjoy what he loves to do! Now going chemo. I feel may only have ~5mths. This just makes me sad! usually stage 4 cancer is 6mths gg from diagnosis. if lucky, can stretch up to a yr but will be painful due to all these chemo treatments and cancer pain. i would also advise him to put all his financial and personal affairs in order using a living will. it will save alot of unnecessary conflict when the eventuality comes. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
socrates469bc Posted February 8, 2021 Share Posted February 8, 2021 11 hours ago, meng.huat said: why the partner still insist on divorcing at this time? stage 4 means not much time left. his life may be over before the lawyers finish their paperwork. waste money on lawyers... and mentally draining for both parties. 47 minutes ago, Bigbird said: He feels his partner is just milking him for money! So divorce, give her her share instead of she having the whole lot! I think he's married less then 10yrs! thats why i m a proponent of pre-nup. the best pre-nup i seen thus far is that the wife must give birth to a kim kia within x yrs to qualify for a larger share of the fortune. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bigbird Posted February 9, 2021 Author Share Posted February 9, 2021 23 hours ago, socrates469bc said: thats why i m a proponent of pre-nup. the best pre-nup i seen thus far is that the wife must give birth to a kim kia within x yrs to qualify for a larger share of the fortune. Pre-nups are not recognized in SG law! Too bad! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
socrates469bc Posted February 9, 2021 Share Posted February 9, 2021 26 minutes ago, Bigbird said: Pre-nups are not recognized in SG law! Too bad! bird, a good lawyer will be able to do the trick. u think those char bos in AWARE can beat a lao tiko bizman?????? wahahahahhahahahah 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bigbird Posted February 10, 2021 Author Share Posted February 10, 2021 23 hours ago, socrates469bc said: bird, a good lawyer will be able to do the trick. u think those char bos in AWARE can beat a lao tiko bizman?????? wahahahahhahahahah Noted. Thanks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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