Man got wife to accept his mistress' move into family home

[The_King]

SINGAPORE - A man who was married for some 30 years not only took a mistress when he got a new job but also got her to live in the family home.

In 2014, the man sought his then wife's acceptance of his mistress to which she reluctantly agreed.

But in December 2017, she and their two grown-up sons packed up and left the matrimonial home.

Two months later, she filed for divorce and an interim judgment was granted in June 2018 on the grounds that the husband had behaved in such a way that the wife could not reasonably be expected to live with him.

"Such behaviour included the husband requesting the wife to accept his mistress into the family and into the matrimonial home, which the wife agreed to," noted Family Court District Judge Kathryn Thong in decision grounds ruling on the division of matrimonial assets and other ancillary matters.

"The husband claimed in these proceedings that the wife was happy with this arrangement and was surprised she had cited this as a reason for the divorce," she added in the grounds issued last month.

The couple's two sons said in a deposition to the court that it was out of fear of their "harsh disciplinarian" father flying into a rage that they grudgingly accepted the mistress into the family home.

In his affidavit and at the hearings, the husband repeatedly stated that he wanted the wife to return to his side.

Against such a backdrop, the court assessed the contributions of each party in order to decide on what each should get from their joint matrimonial pool of assets.

The woman, who had joined the civil service at age 18, was 56 at the time of the hearing while he was 54.

Throughout the years, her career had remained stagnant so that the man's could thrive, and her promotions were delayed because she had to care for the family.

She summed it up as such: after he left the civil service, the husband was preoccupied with his career. From 2014 onwards, he was focused on his affair.

The judge said: "This was a marriage which experienced its hills and troughs, and parties had weathered life's storms together from retrenchment to infidelity.

"Parties had amassed their wealth together, through the wife's efforts in caring for the family and attending to the children's needs financially and non-financially; the husband by focusing on upgrading himself and switching careers. In contrast, the wife was wedded to her job as a technician in the civil service."

Judge Thong accepted the woman's stabilising role in raising their two sons and being around for them, which enabled the man to go abroad on assignments while her career progress was compromised.

But the family reaped material benefits from his increased earnings and he also made and paid for the investment decisions in the family, she said.

The court found the total known asset pool to be some $2.74 million, which included the matrimonial home, insurance policies and a condominium unit.

The asset pool excluding the condo was about $2.45 million, from which the judge awarded 55 per cent to the wife and 45 per cent to the husband, based on their direct and indirect contributions over the years.

For the condo unit, the division was 31 per cent to the wife and 69 per cent to the husband.

The husband, who was ordered to pay costs, is appealing against the judgment.

She added: "As the years went by, ambition and financial gain became his priority it seems and unfortunately, as seen from both sons' affidavits, they are estranged from their father."

 

 

 

https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/courts-crime/man-got-wife-to-accept-his-mistress-move-into-family-home

[XianGe]

Win... If I were the sons will hate the laopei...

[socrates469bc]

2 hours ago, The_King said:

She summed it up as such: after he left the civil service, the husband was preoccupied with his career. From 2014 onwards, he was focused on his affair.
 

https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/courts-crime/man-got-wife-to-accept-his-mistress-move-into-family-home

 

civil servants take the cue from their political masters.

 

Edited May 24, 2021 by socrates469bc

[socrates469bc]

1 hour ago, XianGe said:

Win... If I were the sons will hate the laopei...

 

if the laopeh is.........

 

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the story will be different.

 

i seen enough of these familial infighting that taiwan dramas r really a joke.

Edited May 24, 2021 by socrates469bc

[XianGe]

4 hours ago, socrates469bc said:

 

if the laopeh is.........

 

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the story will be different.

 

i seen enough of these familial infighting that taiwan dramas r really a joke.

Tis saga sounds very old school

[Huat Zai]

How can public servants behave like that? Must be not paid enough