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Sarikei: "I never regret getting married early because this is the path I chose," said Nabil Syahmi Danish Askar, 16, when asked to share the experience of marrying in her teens with her partner, Dayangku Nazarina Awangku Saifuddin, 18. Nabil Syahmi's story gained attention after his wife posted a video containing a picture of the two of them and with the child on TikTok, recently. Nabil Syahmi, who now lives in Kampung Seberang here, said he and his wife were granted on May 10 last year after receiving the blessing of both families. He said he and his wife agreed to get married early because they loved each other and wanted to legalize the relationship. We met two years ago at the site of the motoring event location because of the equally interest in motorcycles. "There, we exchanged phone numbers to get to know each other better and have been out together ever since. "After all, I don't think it's sweet to take a virgin upstream without a legal relationship, worried about being defamatory, so we decided to get married. "Family accepts my decision, there's no barrier just that mum asks me seriously or don't I want to get married because it's not a fun thing, but allow it when I mean it," she said when contacted yesterday. Despite his youth, Nabil Syahmi said, he still spends money on weddings at his wife's family home in Kampung Seberang. He said the money was saved when he worked part-time at a car wash and as a car towing two years ago. 'I didn't expect the family because I realised it was my party, so I had to spend some money. "Alhamdulillah, the ceremony is smooth and we have been married for over a year. "I'm out of school because I quit Form Two and now work as a mechanic in my brother-in-law's workshop," he said. Touching on the light, Nabil Syahmi admits that he and his wife plan to have children at least a year after marriage. "It is destined that the wife became pregnant early which is two months after we got married. "We accept it and treat the child as sustenance. We call it Kayra Afeeya who is now healthy and two months old," she said. Asked about his life after marriage, Nabil Syahmi felt more perfect because he had a wife and children. "Some people say getting married early can't be fun. For me, it can be fun and even more with my wife and children. "It doesn't matter because when we get old, our children are young and can have fun together. "My hope is that my household and my wife will last until Jannah, grow up to be a righteous child and be able to face the test in the household," he said. https://www.hmetro.com.my/utama/2024/05/109...hk90bgktpcrmeub

SINGAPORE: A graduate of one of Singapore’s top universities had advice for everyone, writing in a social media post that the Singapore Dream can turn out to be a nightmare, depending on one’s choices. The author of the May 19 post on the NUS Whispers Facebook page describes himself as a Singaporean millennial who received a government scholarship to pursue a PhD at NUS. However, he also expressed how let down by life he feels. “But I never achieved the Singaporean dream. I’m almost 40 and still a virgin. I have no wife, no house, no children, no car, no nothing. I cannot find a job in Singapore, despite being a government scholar, and had to leave Singapore to earn an income, just like many foreign workers in low-income jobs in SG.” Nevertheless, living abroad has given him perspective, as it often does. He has realized that “Singaporeans really have ‘everything’ but are not always happy or grateful.” While some in Singapore society have been “left out” like himself, most of the NUS and NTU graduates he knows have comfortable lives, “if only they can look past their petty little problems in life, and not get dragged down by them.” He added that while “Singaporeans talk about ‘upgrading’ a lot, not only in housing but career advancement,” this is not always the case elsewhere, where there’s “no guarantee” of being able to live in a better home later on, or of even getting a promotion at work. “Many people simply accept the possibility that they will be stuck for life, without being managers or executives,” he wrote. In the same way, while many in Singapore can travel overseas on holiday once or twice a year to expensive countries like Japan, many people that the post author has met overseas have never even travelled outside their own country, even those who’ve earned PhDs. “And despite all that, people can still find happiness on a day-to-day basis. People find happiness just by talking to colleagues, talking to family, talking to friends. Or making a joke about their problems in life.” This is not the case in Singapore, where “personal problems are usually sad situations in the telling”, as many get bogged down by issues such as not getting along with colleagues or disagreements with their partners. “You cannot expect people to do things your way. You cannot change people But you can take responsibility for your own happiness, instead of putting the responsibility on others to make you happy, which is silly if you think about it,” he added. He then went on with the following advice: “Put down the petty problems or let go of them. That colleague who offended you at work? Just forgive and move on. Failed to become manager in your company? Let go and enjoy your salary. Got rejected by someone you are romantically attracted to? Let go and find someone else or wait for someone else. Government makes a decision you do not agree with? It’s not the end of the world.” The post author ended by writing that small discomforts in life are “not the end of your Singaporean dream” because “Your spouse and children are still there. Your house, still there. Just enjoy life. You have “everything”. You don’t see it, but I know it. If having “everything” bothers you, then let go. Not achieving the Singaporean dream is not a sad thing. It’s only sad because Singaporeans create this narration that life can only be happy one way. You can create your own reality. That is true.