Sometimes it will appear as if things are at a dead end
But often years later when we look back at the situation
We will often find that it was not as bad as it felt back then
I have some small things that sounds bad at that moment in time. Fast forward to today and I see it was not that bad.
I saw the same with others. One case I heard wife borrowed from Ah Long to send home. Later compounded until 1.3 million SGD!!!!
Its like the end of the world. But once he calmed down, and decided to inform those really Ah So and Ah Kong types that loan her and already have collected principle and some interest that they can forget it if they expect payments.
The leftovers was a few hundred K. These are the Ah Longs type with connection back home type. Arrangements were made and interest stopped compounding if they want pay back else he will take a chance and report to SPF. Looks like it was accepted and repayments slowly made. Life return something manageable
But when he heard of it, he wanted to divorce la. want to kick her out of the house la. It was bad. But once rational thoughts return. He realize also maybe wife dare not tell him of her suffering as the money was not used by her but to help family back home.
Love should overcome after there is a young son.
So my thoughts to @Sn00pyPeanut is to think it through. Chinese have a saying. If can yern then yern. or something like that. I am jiak kantang one so only know chinese through interaction.
Cheers