Chestnut Posted July 20, 2020 Share Posted July 20, 2020 There is a common belief that those who are single are searching for “their other half” and that singlehood is just a temporary phase. The single life is meant to be the unfortunate pause between relationships and is meant to be kept as short as possible. These beliefs, however, are not always true. Plenty of singles are perfectly happy to remain single and are not seeking any sort of relationship. People may choose to remain single for a variety of reasons. They may have just left a relationship and want to take a break before they begin to seek out another partner. Others suffered a bad break up and have been turned off by the idea of relationships for the moment or permanently. Still others may have become disillusioned with the dating scene or the prevalence of people looking for “no-strings attached sex” in the current hook-up culture. Some singles, however, have not been turned off by the idea of relationships by an outside source or bad breakup. Some of them just like the single life better. There are, after all, plenty of advantages that come with living the single life, and to them, they outweigh the advantages of a relationship. Here are six reasons some people would rather be single. A Different Focus Shutterstock.com A healthy relationship requires a great deal of time and energy. It is worth the effort for many people, but some singles would prefer to put that time and energy toward other things. They might be focused on their careers at the moment and want to put all of their available time and energy toward climbing the corporate ladder. Some of them are also focusing on their education. Singles who are going to school full time may want to keep their entire focus on their studies. Degrees are not cheap, and many singles would prefer to get as much out of their education as possible. For them, relationships can come later, if at all. While plenty of people who are in happily committed relationships will insist that a partner will help single people increase their energy or help them carry the emotional burden of their studies or career, simply finding those partners takes time and energy. Many singles who are focused on other aspects of their lives do not want to take the time and energy to sort through the inevitable string of failed dates to find a satisfactory relationship. There are places that are more deserving of their attention. Too Busy Shutterstock.com “I’m too busy for a relationship” is often seen as a cop-out by well-meaning friends who are trying to help their unfortunate single friend find the man or woman of their dreams. While there is truth to the old adage that people either find or make time for what is really important to them, there are periods in people’s lives where the only free moments that exist are spent taking care of basic necessities like showering, eating or sleeping. They truly do not have the time to get to know someone or to invest in a relationship. Relationships are rewarding experiences, and many people find that the time they invest in their relationship is well worth it. There is, however, a certain time commitment required. For some singles, they do not have the time that they would want to be able to give their partner. As such, it is better to just remain single. Besides, singles might find what they are doing with their time just as rewarding as a relationship. Self-Development or Discovery Alice Popcorn / Flickr.com Some singles are not currently interested in developing a relationship because they are currently more invested in developing themselves. It is not advisable for a person to get involved with someone when they are still trying to learn who they are themselves. When a person does not know who they are, they do not know what they want from a relationship. This is not a good frame of mind for either party in the relationship. In addition, it is far harder for someone to investigate who they are as a person when at least a small part of their identity and time is wrapped up in another person. Self-development and self-discovery are perfectly good reasons to remain single and speak to a mature mindset. A single person who is focused on learning about themselves or self-improvement will be much more likely to have a healthy relationship at a later date if they choose to pursue one. No Need to Explain Themselves Shutterstock.com Some singles like the control that being single gives them over their lives. When a person is single, a person does not have to “answer” to or “get permission” from anyone in any way shape or form. If they choose not to shower all weekend, there is no one to give the single person strange looks and ask why they did not even bother to bathe. If they decide to spend a ridiculous amount of money on concert tickets, there is not another person who is going to be negatively affected by their choice. A single person’s time, space and money belong entirely to them. If they want to travel, they do not have to worry about working around someone else’s schedule. The single person can simply pick up and leave whenever they are able. There is no one they have to confer with or to whom they need to justify their choices. Their lives truly belong to them. Their Space Belongs to Them Shutterstock.com One of the most attractive parts of being single is that their space is theirs and theirs alone. Those who are in relationships often have to compromise on basic decisions about their living space since it is extremely unlikely that both people in the relationship agree perfectly on what temperature they want their home to be, how many blankets should be on the bed and how big the pile of dishes in the sink can get before it is unacceptable. Singles do not have to make any of those compromises. They alone decide how many blankets should be on the bed and how many days the trash can can go unemptied before it goes from being “full” to “disgusting.” Singles also have the advantage of knowing that any mess in their home is their fault and only their fault. There are no days where they come home from work and find that the sink has mysteriously filled with dishes or that their nice clean countertops are suddenly covered in makeup. There is no stumbling over someone else’s dirty underwear in the morning. If there is a mess in a single person’s home it is because they left it there, not because someone else did not clean up after themselves. Unsuitable Lifestyle For a Relationship Shutterstock.com Some singles live lifestyles that are not suited for a relationship. They may be away from home for long periods of time, especially if their job requires them to travel. If they are on the road 25 out of 30 days each month, a relationship may not be feasible. Not only are they short on time, but it is not necessarily fair to the other person in the relationships if their partner is gone all the time. Similarly, if a single person works long hours every night, they may not be interested in a relationship or have the time necessary to devote to their partner. A lifestyle that is unsuited to relationships may be temporary or permanent and may be the product of external circumstances or a matter of choice. A single person may be traveling often because they are in the process of changing jobs and moving across the country. They may also be on the road all the time because they enjoy traveling and find fulfillment in the constant movement and freshness that comes from continuously visiting new cities. It varies from person to person. There are many reasons that a person may choose to remain single, but it is often a choice. They may feel that their currently lifestyle would be an unfair burden to a partner, or they may simply be more interested in exploring themselves at the moment. A single person may want their singlehood to be temporary and have their eye on a relationship at some point down the road. They might also have no intention of every entering a relationship. Both can be equaling fulfilling and leave them singing the praises of the single life. https://www.beliefnet.com/love-family/relationships/6-reasons-we-would-much-rather-be-single.aspx 3 Shalala lala la la ~ 🌠 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ManOfTheHour Posted July 20, 2020 Share Posted July 20, 2020 I miss being single 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chestnut Posted July 20, 2020 Author Share Posted July 20, 2020 2 minutes ago, ManOfTheHour said: I miss being single Does ur wife miss being single too? You all marry for how long? Shalala lala la la ~ 🌠 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_King Posted July 20, 2020 Share Posted July 20, 2020 enjoying now but when i old, i will die alone in my flat 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chamfer Posted July 20, 2020 Share Posted July 20, 2020 8 hours ago, ManOfTheHour said: I miss being single Me too... Been thinking often about why i choose to get marry instead. Downside of been single is die or sick no one knows or cares. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
XianGe Posted July 21, 2020 Share Posted July 21, 2020 Not everyone suitable to be attached 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ManOfTheHour Posted July 21, 2020 Share Posted July 21, 2020 9 hours ago, Chestnut said: Does ur wife miss being single too? You all marry for how long? Long enough to know I am sick of it already lol 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ManOfTheHour Posted July 21, 2020 Share Posted July 21, 2020 (edited) 56 minutes ago, chamfer said: Me too... Been thinking often about why i choose to get marry instead. Downside of been single is die or sick no one knows or cares. Agree with the downside but after marriage I realised its ok to be selfish cos we need to take care of ourselves first. I miss being able to have control of my life without the consequences affecting others. everyday i just look at my child’s face to motivate myself if not i would just throw my wife out of the window lol. Marriage has its positives though. Taught me how capable I actually am when you are running the household Edited July 21, 2020 by ManOfTheHour 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chestnut Posted July 21, 2020 Author Share Posted July 21, 2020 1 hour ago, XianGe said: Not everyone suitable to be attached Hehehe..i dont think i am suitable also.. oh well..let nature take its course then Shalala lala la la ~ 🌠 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
XianGe Posted July 21, 2020 Share Posted July 21, 2020 15 minutes ago, Chestnut said: Hehehe..i dont think i am suitable also.. oh well..let nature take its course then No need rush lo... No song chen xian no tok 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ManOfTheHour Posted July 21, 2020 Share Posted July 21, 2020 (edited) 37 minutes ago, Chestnut said: Hehehe..i dont think i am suitable also.. oh well..let nature take its course then I know someone at TPY lorong 1 who is suitable. Too bad he has gay tendencies Edited July 21, 2020 by ManOfTheHour 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chestnut Posted July 21, 2020 Author Share Posted July 21, 2020 6 minutes ago, ManOfTheHour said: I know someone at TPY lorong 1 who is suitable. Too bad he has gay tendencies Btw..i saw someone with a same user name as his over here leh. Jus joined last week Shalala lala la la ~ 🌠 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ManOfTheHour Posted July 21, 2020 Share Posted July 21, 2020 8 minutes ago, Chestnut said: Btw..i saw someone with a same user name as his over here leh. Jus joined last week Hahahahahaha. He must be bored cos pban at nk 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chestnut Posted July 21, 2020 Author Share Posted July 21, 2020 2 hours ago, ManOfTheHour said: Agree with the downside but after marriage I realised its ok to be selfish cos we need to take care of ourselves first. I miss being able to have control of my life without the consequences affecting others. everyday i just look at my child’s face to motivate myself if not i would just throw my wife out of the window lol. Marriage has its positives though. Taught me how capable I actually am when you are running the household How chiu met ur wife wor? Shalala lala la la ~ 🌠 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ManOfTheHour Posted July 21, 2020 Share Posted July 21, 2020 37 minutes ago, Chestnut said: How chiu met ur wife wor? Saw her outside, see chio then talk lor haha 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chestnut Posted July 21, 2020 Author Share Posted July 21, 2020 10 minutes ago, ManOfTheHour said: Saw her outside, see chio then talk lor haha But u lucky lor. She still go with you Shalala lala la la ~ 🌠 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ManOfTheHour Posted July 21, 2020 Share Posted July 21, 2020 16 minutes ago, Chestnut said: But u lucky lor. She still go with you Shes the lucky one. Get such a handsome confident husband 😉 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chestnut Posted July 21, 2020 Author Share Posted July 21, 2020 1 hour ago, XianGe said: No need rush lo... No song chen xian no tok Now i beo this unker also Shalala lala la la ~ 🌠 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
XianGe Posted July 21, 2020 Share Posted July 21, 2020 37 minutes ago, Chestnut said: Now i beo this unker also He act VIP gained alot hatred from viewers 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chestnut Posted July 21, 2020 Author Share Posted July 21, 2020 13 minutes ago, XianGe said: He act VIP gained alot hatred from viewers U watched uh? I think better than WOMC. The character look like very stable and trustworthy but end up go cheat with a xmm. Shalala lala la la ~ 🌠 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
XianGe Posted July 21, 2020 Share Posted July 21, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, Chestnut said: U watched uh? I think better than WOMC. The character look like very stable and trustworthy but end up go cheat with a xmm. Yup... Good to watch kdrama... One of the attraction ish Jang Nara WOMC like too serious show... Keyword: xmm Edited July 21, 2020 by XianGe 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chestnut Posted July 21, 2020 Author Share Posted July 21, 2020 (edited) 48 minutes ago, XianGe said: Yup... Good to watch kdrama... One of the attraction ish Jang Nara WOMC like too serious show... Keyword: xmm I also like Jang nara. I notice the drama she acts in, the ratings are good and storyline is not bad Womc focus too much on the same situation and too draggy. But which adultery couple i hate the most it will be WOMC dog man and woman. VIP dog man woman couple i dont have so much hate Look like 50shades theme Edited July 21, 2020 by Chestnut 1 Shalala lala la la ~ 🌠 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chamfer Posted July 21, 2020 Share Posted July 21, 2020 11 hours ago, ManOfTheHour said: Agree with the downside but after marriage I realised its ok to be selfish cos we need to take care of ourselves first. I miss being able to have control of my life without the consequences affecting others. everyday i just look at my child’s face to motivate myself if not i would just throw my wife out of the window lol. Marriage has its positives though. Taught me how capable I actually am when you are running the household I have the same feelings too..... I wish if i could turn back time and made the choice to stay single. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Homelander Posted July 21, 2020 Share Posted July 21, 2020 25 minutes ago, chamfer said: I have the same feelings too..... I wish if i could turn back time and made the choice to stay single. u dun want your kid ma? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chestnut Posted July 21, 2020 Author Share Posted July 21, 2020 13 minutes ago, Homelander said: u dun want your kid ma? I guess some people when they turn parents or started a family. They will missed singlehood 2 Shalala lala la la ~ 🌠 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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