Let’s talk about death and dying

[Bear123]

Recently I attended a talk about wills and LPA and it seems a lot of people don’t know much about them or “leave it to later”.  What about you all?  
 

Have you done a will and/or LPA?

 

Are you afraid of death?

 

Have you seen people dying or ghosts?

[Bear123]

Let me kick off here.

 

Not done any will or LPA though I have done CPF nomination 

 

I am an emergency nurse and one thing about they patients who come in and die is that when they went to bed the previous night, they did not know they wouldn’t wake up in the morning OR if they woke up in the morning, they didn’t know that would be their last day on earth.  Mostly

 

cos if they knew, chances are they are in hospital, hospice or under some kind of hospice/palliative care at home

[XianGe]

8 minutes ago, Bear123 said:

Recently I attended a talk about wills and LPA and it seems a lot of people don’t know much about them or “leave it to later”.  What about you all?  
 

Have you done a will and/or LPA?

 

Are you afraid of death?

 

Have you seen people dying or ghosts?

 

Yes not alot ppl... Usually is when they witnessed another party then it gives then a wake up call to do it... Have done mine but need prepare the info and do alot thinking...

 

For me if it comes find lo... But if course won't want final destination style of death nor painful death... 

 

Saw relative dead at horsepeter is bad enough so hopefully don't have to see it

[Bear123]

4 minutes ago, XianGe said:

 

For me if it comes find lo... But if course won't want final destination style of death nor painful death... 

Me too.  Hope it’s not too fast so I can clear unfinished business but not painful and draggy 

 

 

[Standing Birdy]

Did LPA. Also did AMD for parent. But a nurse told me at hospital they will always resuscitate, even if family member tells them patient has AMD, because that is SOP and they have no time to verify.

No will because don't need special treatment for now. Intestate succession is ok.

[Bear123]

1 hour ago, Standing Birdy said:

Did LPA. Also did AMD for parent. But a nurse told me at hospital they will always resuscitate, even if family member tells them patient has AMD, because that is SOP and they have no time to verify.

No will because don't need special treatment for now. Intestate succession is ok.

Actually they shouldn’t but yes, if no way to verify then it’s better to resuscitate.

 

Its always better to resuscitate and then realise no need vs no resuscitation and then realise actually need.

 

But this is more applicable to emergency department.  Shouldn’t be so in the wards

[Standing Birdy]

2 hours ago, Bear123 said:

Actually they shouldn’t but yes, if no way to verify then it’s better to resuscitate.

 

Its always better to resuscitate and then realise no need vs no resuscitation and then realise actually need.

 

But this is more applicable to emergency department.  Shouldn’t be so in the wards

Think it applies for life support and not for CPR. Even in ward, if someone needs CPR they will prolly do it and not waste time to check.

[Bear123]

11 minutes ago, Standing Birdy said:

Think it applies for life support and not for CPR. Even in ward, if someone needs CPR they will prolly do it and not waste time to check.

Not really true. In ward, the patient usually already have some status like DNR or active management. Cos sometimes patients are already terminally ill so no point doing CPR

 

if 0 status like new admission or not really ill in the first place (maybe just recovering from elective operation) then yes, do CPR

[zheng]

single forever alone... die liao got money can leave to who? the last nurse who truely take cares of u?

[socrates469bc]

On 11/29/2024 at 8:48 AM, Bear123 said:

Recently I attended a talk about wills and LPA and it seems a lot of people don’t know much about them or “leave it to later”.  What about you all?  
 

Have you done a will and/or LPA?

 

Are you afraid of death?

 

Have you seen people dying or ghosts?

 

limpeh more afraid of bo money for 7p than death

 

[socrates469bc]

On 11/29/2024 at 9:02 AM, XianGe said:

 

Yes not alot ppl... Usually is when they witnessed another party then it gives then a wake up call to do it... Have done mine but need prepare the info and do alot thinking...

 

For me if it comes find lo... But if course won't want final destination style of death nor painful death... 

 

Saw relative dead at horsepeter is bad enough so hopefully don't have to see it

 

On 11/29/2024 at 9:08 AM, Bear123 said:

Me too.  Hope it’s not too fast so I can clear unfinished business but not painful and draggy 

 

 

 

the most painful death limpeh has even seen is dying from old age or cancer

 

if old age, dying is from failure of organs.

 

if cancer, die from medical bills.

 

thats why limpeh agree with a loctor friend of limpeh

 

if kena stage 3 cancer, might as well take the money and enjoy bucket list

 

wahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

[socrates469bc]

On 12/27/2024 at 11:07 AM, zheng said:

single forever alone... die liao got money can leave to who? the last nurse who truely take cares of u?

 

kumgong pappy serf jiu shi kumgong pappy serf

 

limpeh will arrange my estate to stage this yearly show on limpeh's anniversary and mid of 7th month.

 

wahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

 

[Bear123]

On 12/29/2024 at 6:15 PM, socrates469bc said:

 

 

the most painful death limpeh has even seen is dying from old age or cancer

 

if old age, dying is from failure of organs.

 

if cancer, die from medical bills.

 

thats why limpeh agree with a loctor friend of limpeh

 

if kena stage 3 cancer, might as well take the money and enjoy bucket list

 

wahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

Yes.  If kenna cancer that needs chemo I think just forget it and enjoy life

[ManOfTheHour]

I cant wait to die. 👍🏻

[Chestnut]

I only did CPF nomination. And shared bank acc with my laobu.

I dont have much to will, even if i live to my ripe old age i also have no descendants to will. I might donate moi monies if i pass on at an old age.

 

[Chestnut]

On 11/29/2024 at 9:02 AM, XianGe said:

For me if it comes find lo... But if course won't want final destination style of death nor painful death... 

 

I want a smooth old age, i want to still be strong and healthy. Able to move around on my own. If i pass away i want to die in my sleep peacefully.

I rather face struggles in my younger days than facing struggles in my old age